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14th Jan 2026

Dr.Stance Breaking Generational Pain: Foster Youth Triumph Stories w/ LME Tunechi & Tee-Tee

This episode of "Turning Hustle Into Legacy" is a heartfelt dive into the raw experiences of two incredible young voices who emerged from the foster care system. We kick things off with LME Tunechi, a former foster youth and rapper, who shares his journey of turning pain into purpose through creativity and hustle. Alongside him is Tee-Tee, a current foster youth who is bravely finding her voice and identity while navigating the complexities of her past. Dr. Audra Stance, our passionate host, guides this emotional conversation as they explore the hidden traumas that foster youth carry into adulthood. Together, they discuss how sharing their stories can break cycles, build legacies, and inspire future generations. It’s a powerful reminder that vulnerability is strength, and healing is possible. If you've faced trauma or are looking for hope, this episode is a must-listen!

Transcript
Speaker A:

Foreign.

Speaker B:

Thank y' all for tuning in.

Speaker B:

This is Dr. Stanz, where we're turning our hustle into legacies.

Speaker B:

And I'm so excited about today.

Speaker B:

I got one of my favorite people in the world, Ms. Titi, one of my first troubled goddamn foster youth that drove me nuts.

Speaker B:

I'm joking.

Speaker B:

Little bit my favorite.

Speaker B:

Actually, you know what?

Speaker B:

You know why she's my favorite?

Speaker B:

And am I your favorite?

Speaker A:

Yeah, you my favorite.

Speaker B:

Show em what you did, please, on your arm.

Speaker B:

It's the most special thing I think anyone's ever fucking done for me in the world.

Speaker B:

Show that camera.

Speaker B:

She got me tatted on her.

Speaker B:

And what did you tell me when you did that?

Speaker B:

I can cry thinking about it.

Speaker A:

Don't hate me, but I smoke too much weed.

Speaker A:

What did I say?

Speaker A:

I know.

Speaker A:

I got.

Speaker B:

I love you.

Speaker B:

Lord have mercy.

Speaker B:

You said you couldn't wait to get your mom tattooed.

Speaker A:

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker B:

And that shit just touched my heart, y'.

Speaker A:

All.

Speaker B:

So this kid was with me in my home.

Speaker B:

We lived together.

Speaker B:

She drove me nuts.

Speaker B:

But by far, I've learned so much from her.

Speaker B:

And she's literally my daughter, period.

Speaker B:

Okay?

Speaker B:

And then I have my guy, Tunchy.

Speaker C:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker B:

LM Tunchy.

Speaker B:

Tunchy.

Speaker B:

Tunchy.

Speaker B:

Excited to have him.

Speaker B:

And honestly, he was a former foster youth, and I thought this.

Speaker B:

This podcast show, or live stream, whatever y' all want to call it, would be a good thing.

Speaker B:

One, cause we have one currently in the system and one that's a former.

Speaker B:

And then me that came from the lifestyle that almost was one.

Speaker B:

So I think we can all relate.

Speaker B:

I got a copy of my book for y'.

Speaker A:

All.

Speaker B:

Cause I definitely need y' all to have my story so y' all can understand me and where I come from.

Speaker B:

Okay?

Speaker C:

Okay.

Speaker B:

Um.

Speaker B:

Cause I think one thing we all got in coming.

Speaker B:

We all from the streets, right?

Speaker B:

And, you know, even me, Titi, you know, we talked about it, her being in the streets.

Speaker B:

When I met you, I. I picked her up from a trick house, period.

Speaker B:

And I was so intrigued by that, and probably way more than, you know, excited to pick your ass up.

Speaker B:

Because I was like, this is gonna be my protege right now, for real.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

And I know we come from the same similar backgrounds from being in the streets, turning tricks and getting money.

Speaker B:

I think that was the number one thing I loved about you.

Speaker B:

Because let me tell you something.

Speaker B:

Fuck Baby D. This is a different level.

Speaker B:

Baby D. Little nigga Cook.

Speaker B:

And I mean Cook.

Speaker C:

Okay.

Speaker B:

She get down in the kitchen.

Speaker B:

I didn't even have to cook.

Speaker B:

When she lived with me, she cooked, she clean, she could do your nails.

Speaker B:

She'll rob a stove.

Speaker C:

Okay.

Speaker B:

No, literally.

Speaker B:

Okay, we'll talk about this.

Speaker B:

We'll talk about that.

Speaker B:

Okay.

Speaker B:

She went to shit.

Speaker B:

And then just beautiful.

Speaker B:

Naturally beautiful.

Speaker B:

In and out.

Speaker A:

Thank you.

Speaker B:

So for me, this kid right here.

Speaker B:

You changed my life.

Speaker B:

You say I changed your life, but you've made me.

Speaker B:

Oh, God, don't make me cry.

Speaker B:

But you made me a better person, a better parent, a better foster parent, a better big titi, big Auntie, whatever.

Speaker B:

You call me Mom.

Speaker B:

You help me be a better parent.

Speaker B:

Facts.

Speaker B:

And the things that even you come to my house.

Speaker B:

I gotta tell this story.

Speaker B:

When the nigga robbed the goddamn store.

Speaker B:

Police knocked in my door every three days for this nigga.

Speaker B:

They knew her by name.

Speaker B:

Hey, is TT Here?

Speaker B:

Yeah, give us a minute.

Speaker B:

And what you do this time?

Speaker B:

Oh, no, Ma just robbed the store real quick.

Speaker B:

I said, oh, okay, well, let's just go to jail, and then I'll get you out.

Speaker B:

Am I not lying?

Speaker A:

Literally, Amen.

Speaker A:

No, for real.

Speaker B:

And I never.

Speaker A:

That's so sad.

Speaker B:

I think that was the hardest thing for me, seeing you in jail.

Speaker B:

Cause when I went in, I was tough.

Speaker B:

I'm like, nah, this nigga gonna sit in jail.

Speaker B:

Like, she needs to learn her lesson.

Speaker B:

And then me seeing you in handcuffs coming out of there with your head down, I'm like, release her now.

Speaker A:

No, for real.

Speaker B:

It fucked me up so bad mentally that I was like, oh, my God.

Speaker B:

I didn't like how you were confined to the jailhouse movement, meaning under, like, what is it?

Speaker B:

Like, control.

Speaker B:

You feel me?

Speaker B:

Like, you instantly came out with your head down.

Speaker B:

Like, they had these kids poised to be a certain way.

Speaker C:

Yeah.

Speaker C:

Under man's law.

Speaker B:

I didn't like that.

Speaker B:

It fucked me up.

Speaker B:

And it was like, you know what?

Speaker B:

I got another way I can work with her.

Speaker B:

Put her on ankle monitor.

Speaker B:

That way she can't go nowhere.

Speaker B:

Boom.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

And she hated it.

Speaker B:

She hated just having to stay in the house.

Speaker C:

She hated it.

Speaker B:

She hated it.

Speaker B:

But I will say, I think you've come so far, especially on your journey, your story and where you come from.

Speaker B:

You are special.

Speaker B:

And I always tell, you gonna be somebody.

Speaker B:

For a fact, y', all, I promise y', all, I don't know if it's five years, 10 years, whatever.

Speaker B:

You gonna be somebody.

Speaker B:

I'm telling you, a girl can sing, rap, cook, clean, and rob a goddamn store.

Speaker B:

I'm not even lying.

Speaker B:

I never seen nothing like it in My life.

Speaker B:

This is facts, okay?

Speaker B:

It'll still be smiling.

Speaker B:

She crazy as hell.

Speaker B:

All right, so I got my beautiful titi and then my tunchi.

Speaker B:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

I want you to introduce yourself.

Speaker C:

I go by the name of Ella.

Speaker C:

Me, Tunchy.

Speaker C:

I'm from Columbus, Ohio.

Speaker C:

I resigned in Oakland, California.

Speaker B:

Now, period.

Speaker C:

I'm a music artist.

Speaker B:

I love it.

Speaker C:

I'm a business owner.

Speaker C:

I own a cleaning business.

Speaker B:

Okay.

Speaker C:

I'm a father, okay.

Speaker C:

And shoot, I'm God's child.

Speaker C:

I'm a foster kid, you know, So I really was raised by the.

Speaker C:

My heart, my.

Speaker C:

My mind, the man upstairs.

Speaker C:

And just followed the path to, you know, where I'm at today.

Speaker C:

So, yeah, I'm here.

Speaker B:

And how is foster care?

Speaker B:

And I'll ask you too, tt, like, how did you get in foster care?

Speaker B:

Like, where did it come from?

Speaker C:

Yeah.

Speaker C:

So basically it started super young.

Speaker C:

I got put into Franklin county chewing services, Columbus, Ohio.

Speaker C:

I was basically put into the system at nine, really basically through truancy in school, a few cases of welts on my sister's legs and getting whoopings.

Speaker C:

Just real discipline stuff.

Speaker C:

I grew up in a real loving home, but mom was just a big drug dealer.

Speaker C:

So we were in bad environments, you know what I'm saying?

Speaker C:

And at 8, I got shot in the leg by a stray bullet.

Speaker C:

My sister's boyfriend, they was just teenager.

Speaker C:

He was 15, you know what I mean?

Speaker C:

I was 8.

Speaker C:

I witnessed him do something in the alley through the window, and he murdered somebody.

Speaker C:

I saw it in the alley at nine years old.

Speaker C:

And then I saw him coming to the house.

Speaker C:

So I kind of got scared and just like, you know, like, I ain't see nothing.

Speaker C:

And he came directly to the room I was in, but he was trying not to, like, let me see the gun.

Speaker C:

So he decided to walk on the bed to go put the gun away.

Speaker C:

But the gun went off again.

Speaker C:

I don't know if it's.

Speaker C:

Cause it was hot or whatever, but it hit me in my leg at nine.

Speaker C:

Yeah.

Speaker C:

So to avoid, you know, to avoid foster care, we didn't go to the hospital.

Speaker C:

We did like home care, self care on my leg.

Speaker C:

I didn't go to school for a minute.

Speaker C:

So that built the case a little bit more.

Speaker C:

And then mom got pregnant again.

Speaker C:

And when it was time to have the baby, it was drugs in the baby system.

Speaker C:

So they was like, okay, let's go get these kids.

Speaker C:

You know what I mean?

Speaker C:

So they got us like out of nowhere, honestly.

Speaker A:

Instantly.

Speaker C:

Yeah.

Speaker C:

But just.

Speaker C:

But mom was a great woman.

Speaker C:

She passed away in 20, 22, but great woman, strong.

Speaker C:

She used to prepare us for it in a way.

Speaker C:

Like, When I was 5 and 6, we used to lay in the bed, watch movies, and I used to be like, what you would do if them white people come and get y'?

Speaker C:

All, you know, like, test us, you know, and we used to tell her, make jokes, what we do and all that.

Speaker C:

High do that.

Speaker C:

And, like, throughout my journey in foster care, I used to remember mom telling me, like, asking us those questions.

Speaker C:

And I knew she felt the energy coming toward, you know, but, yeah, mom, that's my goat.

Speaker C:

That's my queen.

Speaker C:

Like, she already put everything in me I needed to beat the system.

Speaker C:

And then when I got through it at 21, I graduated.

Speaker B:

Did you go to any transitional housing programs and stuff like that?

Speaker C:

Yeah, so we went through.

Speaker C:

We went through three homes.

Speaker C:

It was me and my two younger sisters.

Speaker B:

Oh, so they didn't break y' all up.

Speaker C:

That's what I kept us together, you know what I mean?

Speaker C:

And my other.

Speaker C:

My middle sister, she was like six at the time, but by the time she got, like, 10, she used to tell them, like, I'm gonna kill myself if y' all take me for my sister and brother.

Speaker C:

Like, you know, so she used to really, like, he's like, oh, we ain't gonna play with this little group right here.

Speaker C:

Feel me?

Speaker C:

We gonna really so keep them together.

Speaker C:

At 16, 17, just for my younger sisters, I allowed a Caucasian family to adopt us.

Speaker C:

And they really.

Speaker C:

It was really for.

Speaker C:

For me to stay based for high school football.

Speaker C:

I turned out to be a great football player, so I had college opportunities, you know what I mean?

Speaker C:

So I was kind of too old for adoption, but my sisters needed placement, and they promised me, like, we make sure you get through high school.

Speaker C:

We gonna get you to that football field and college, you know, and it's the white family, you know, So I really just, like, put my.

Speaker C:

Put my faith in them, and I let em adopt us and stuff, change my last name, you know, all that stuff.

Speaker C:

My real name is Shaquille Trayvon Stewart.

Speaker B:

But do you still talk to them?

Speaker C:

Every once in a while, you know what I mean?

Speaker C:

We had our little bumps in the road.

Speaker B:

That's fine.

Speaker C:

You know, ways they treated my sister when I was.

Speaker C:

You know, stuff like that, you know, So I engage with them.

Speaker C:

But I'm really so used to being free and solo through the system that this how I'm living my grown life too.

Speaker C:

But I'm gonna build my own tree, you know what I mean?

Speaker B:

But you Building it.

Speaker C:

Yeah, I'm building.

Speaker C:

I got my daughters now, you know, I got beautiful baby mother, my best friend, for real, you know, and then that's where the village start right there.

Speaker C:

And I'm just engaging and building people a new TT you know, finding people in this world that can really, like, embrace me, but allow me to, like, be a gift to them, you know what I mean?

Speaker B:

Well, you definitely gift to us.

Speaker B:

The day I met you, I met you on the podcast and you came to me and you was like, dang.

Speaker B:

I think me saying about the foster care stuff, and it just intrigued you.

Speaker B:

And once you told me you were a former foster, I wound up doing some research on you.

Speaker B:

And I said, okay, this little youngster got hella following.

Speaker B:

You know, he be moving.

Speaker B:

I seen your page.

Speaker B:

You.

Speaker B:

You rapping.

Speaker B:

And it's hella people.

Speaker B:

They.

Speaker B:

They love you.

Speaker C:

Yeah, we like, okay, this little n.

Speaker B:

Somebody I called Ms. J, she's like, yeah, he's somebody.

Speaker B:

I said, okay, well, we need him immediately.

Speaker C:

Okay.

Speaker B:

I need to get him on.

Speaker B:

I'm extremely proud of you.

Speaker B:

And like, hopefully TT you can see.

Speaker C:

We'Re gonna be able to.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

You know, y' all connect and, you know, for sure.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

And see how even though you was in the system, you can still make it out and be successful.

Speaker B:

Cause you successfully got his own business.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

You took that pain and made it into something.

Speaker C:

And that's one thing.

Speaker C:

That's one thing.

Speaker C:

Like, I'm glad I met her now too, because as a foster kid, I feel like I was advanced mentally.

Speaker C:

So I can see how they was manipulating kids, giving them too much medicine, locking us in our rooms, making us knock on the doors to go pee.

Speaker C:

Little weird shit, you know what I mean?

Speaker C:

And I really didn't let it break me, though.

Speaker C:

But I saw how I broke my foster.

Speaker C:

Like, the foster kids around me, we used to go to, like, respite.

Speaker B:

Respite care.

Speaker C:

You know, Respite care.

Speaker C:

And they had treat us hella different.

Speaker C:

Like, dog is crazy.

Speaker A:

For real.

Speaker B:

It's so fucked up.

Speaker C:

Hot dog with no ketchup on it.

Speaker C:

But then cut our hot dog up with the bread, and then they kids had the fries and the chips, and.

Speaker B:

She just treats you differently.

Speaker C:

Yeah.

Speaker C:

And a lot of people I was around through the system, and it broke them.

Speaker C:

They went crazy.

Speaker C:

They didn't let it.

Speaker C:

And I was a kid too, so I couldn't really, like, say nothing.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker C:

Or, you know, groom them in a way.

Speaker C:

Let them know, like, we gotta make it to 18.

Speaker C:

For real.

Speaker C:

This why we really here, to make it to 18.

Speaker C:

And then we got our.

Speaker C:

We in control.

Speaker C:

You feel me?

Speaker C:

But if they break us by 18, once we hit 18, the world gonna eat us up, you know?

Speaker C:

But I feel like now I got that voice, I can speak up.

Speaker C:

Yeah.

Speaker C:

And when I hit on 18, I said, you know what?

Speaker C:

The foster care was a blessing to me.

Speaker C:

Cause it got me out of the bad environment.

Speaker C:

I probably would have got shot again.

Speaker C:

Something happened to me.

Speaker C:

I got my bachelor's degree, so I ain't want to go back to the environment where my, you know, my biological family raised me with a bachelor's degree.

Speaker C:

And that's dope.

Speaker C:

And just embracing it.

Speaker C:

Just.

Speaker C:

I ain't have a vengeance against them.

Speaker C:

It just gave me a little swag and cockiness.

Speaker C:

Like, you know what?

Speaker C:

Like, look what y' all built.

Speaker C:

You feel me?

Speaker C:

Like, y' all thought y' all was gonna break me, but look what y' all built.

Speaker C:

And now sometimes they be like, where you from?

Speaker C:

I just say, Franklin County Children's Services.

Speaker A:

Damn.

Speaker C:

Fuck.

Speaker C:

That's where I'm from.

Speaker B:

God damn.

Speaker C:

And then, shoot, that's how we going.

Speaker C:

But I'm blessed.

Speaker C:

So, yeah, we here now.

Speaker B:

You guys are inspirations.

Speaker B:

Like, people don't really understand the foster care system.

Speaker B:

And, like, you know, they always be like, well, they fucked up.

Speaker B:

I can kind of relate to that.

Speaker B:

Well, she fucked up.

Speaker B:

But people don't understand you not having a home.

Speaker B:

That's normal.

Speaker B:

Growing up in with a mother, a father, even just a simple grandmother.

Speaker B:

Yeah, that shit is fucking traumatizing.

Speaker B:

Like, and I think people don't understand when you're exposed to things at a young age.

Speaker B:

Like, me too.

Speaker B:

Like, this is probably why I became a hoe, because I was exposed to sex young.

Speaker B:

My mother in bed having sex with niggas, and I'm five, and I know what the fuck is going on.

Speaker B:

They saying they exercising.

Speaker B:

And, you know, now I'm like, well, fuck, let me go exercise.

Speaker C:

Fuck it.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

But not knowing, you know, these.

Speaker B:

I think parents, even me being a parent, you know, we have to understand as parents, like, you guys are watching us.

Speaker C:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

And I think, like, I got a lot of behaviors from my mother.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

Even though my mom gave her, you know, gave her.

Speaker B:

Her all rest in peace, you know, Roxy.

Speaker B:

Lieutenant Roxy, cuz she died 21.

Speaker C:

Okay.

Speaker B:

So she gave it her all.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

But I think, too, what we have to realize, our parents got trauma too.

Speaker C:

Got you.

Speaker B:

You get what I'm saying?

Speaker B:

My mother was molested and went through all this shit by family members and shit.

Speaker B:

So of course she's over sexual, right?

Speaker B:

So now that shit comes down to her kids.

Speaker B:

So it's called a generational curse.

Speaker C:

Gotcha.

Speaker B:

And it's a lot of that that's going on.

Speaker B:

And people, they just quick to judge you, but they don't know your story.

Speaker C:

I feel you.

Speaker B:

They have no idea what the you, you know, go through.

Speaker B:

Like for me, growing up, I had anger issues.

Speaker B:

I was a fighter in and out of jail.

Speaker B:

And tt probably know I got anger, motherfucker, you know, like just blow up, go 0 to 100.

Speaker B:

It's like, oh, she crazy.

Speaker B:

You know, she's firsthand witnessed me acting a goddamn fool in the house with her and blowing up on them.

Speaker B:

Cause they doing dumb shit.

Speaker B:

And it's because I'm fighting grown men at six years old with my mother getting her ass whooped.

Speaker C:

Gotcha.

Speaker B:

So of course that trauma follows me, right?

Speaker C:

Gotcha.

Speaker B:

Which is all in my book from hoe to CEO.

Speaker B:

But I'm just saying, like it literally follows you, the trauma.

Speaker B:

And so right now I'm in therapy, like.

Speaker B:

Cause I'm really trying to learn how to control my emotions.

Speaker C:

Gotcha.

Speaker B:

You know, and I talk to you about that sometimes too.

Speaker B:

So let's ask you, Titi, how did you get in foster care?

Speaker B:

If you don't mind speaking about with your cute self.

Speaker B:

And thank you.

Speaker B:

Tunchy ling me.

Speaker B:

Tunchy?

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker A:

Thank you.

Speaker A:

That was a beautiful story.

Speaker B:

It was.

Speaker C:

I appreciate you.

Speaker B:

This kid, you tickled me.

Speaker A:

This shit crazy.

Speaker B:

How old were you when you first got in the system?

Speaker A:

Well, I've been in and out the system.

Speaker A:

Well, I found out I was in and out the system.

Speaker A:

Cause I read my court report not that long ago.

Speaker A:

I was in and out the system like four times before I was 12 and stayed in the system all the way until now.

Speaker B:

Oh, wow.

Speaker A:

But I didn't even know that like my parents like lost us heck of times because they kept finding my mom with drugs in her system and stuff.

Speaker A:

Or it's like DV or something.

Speaker A:

So.

Speaker B:

Domestic violence.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

What I was don't know.

Speaker A:

So basically my dad beat up my mom.

Speaker A:

Okay.

Speaker A:

So reason why we first up went to foster care was my dad beat up my mom and he used to put his hands on her a lot and stuff.

Speaker A:

And my mom ran out through the back that night and she went to the hospital.

Speaker A:

And when she left, you know, my dad like took the anger out on me, you know, put his hands on me and stuff.

Speaker A:

And after, when she went to the.

Speaker A:

After when she went to the hospital, right?

Speaker A:

They like, so what happened?

Speaker A:

And stuff.

Speaker A:

She tell them what happened.

Speaker A:

They call the police.

Speaker A:

The police come in the morning to come get us.

Speaker A:

And well, really, they came to arrest him.

Speaker A:

They didn't come to get us.

Speaker A:

That's really.

Speaker A:

They came to arrest him and they dropped my mama off right before.

Speaker A:

You know, I'll just get that.

Speaker A:

So basically, long story short, so after that, my mom come.

Speaker A:

She she there, and I'm basically doing everything and stuff.

Speaker A:

And like, she not really doing much and stuff.

Speaker A:

And then the next day go by, in that day, we needed like laundry soap or something.

Speaker A:

So I'm like, we should go to Walmart and go get some laundry soap.

Speaker A:

We should walk, go to Walmart.

Speaker A:

And she kept taking so long.

Speaker A:

And I'm like, why does she take so long?

Speaker A:

Like, I'm just getting the kids dressed by myself and everything.

Speaker A:

And then out of nowhere, you hear them knocks on the door.

Speaker A:

I'm like, what the fuck?

Speaker A:

Who is that?

Speaker B:

That feeling, I feel it right now.

Speaker A:

For real, that feeling.

Speaker A:

Don't go away.

Speaker A:

Remember that.

Speaker B:

And damn, that.

Speaker B:

That is deep.

Speaker A:

And after that, once I knew that was cps, I'm like, we had a German shepherd, so I grabbed the German shepherd because we always used to train him to attack.

Speaker A:

We do a little training and stuff, and he gonna attack when I say attack.

Speaker A:

So I grab like the.

Speaker A:

The taser and stuff, and I gave my little brother the pepper spray.

Speaker A:

And I'm like, they not taking this.

Speaker A:

Like, we.

Speaker A:

We finna spray that.

Speaker A:

Yes, we gonna get the dog to attack him.

Speaker A:

But long story short, they had called the police and then make me calm down and then put us in the car, took us off.

Speaker A:

Once they took us, my mom, like, just went off and did her own thing.

Speaker A:

She always put like a dude before us and stuff.

Speaker A:

She was always that type of person.

Speaker A:

I'm white and black.

Speaker A:

My dad black, my mom white.

Speaker A:

And yeah, she always put a dude before us and stuff.

Speaker A:

So she wasn't really concerned about us when we got in the system.

Speaker A:

So after we in the system, we would have went back home, but like, all right.

Speaker A:

So, all right, we would have went back home.

Speaker B:

Keep in mind, you help y' all helping others.

Speaker B:

I know this is probably the hardest thing to do to tell your story, but to be honest, it's a healing process.

Speaker A:

It is.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

It took me a long time to tell the world I was a hoe.

Speaker B:

I'm talking about real hoe on the motherfucking track, bush Street, Frisco, 10 toes, you know, Real ho.

Speaker A:

Amen.

Speaker B:

It's hard to tell that story, you.

Speaker A:

Know what I mean?

Speaker B:

So just know that I honor you guys and love and appreciate y' all for sharing y' all story.

Speaker B:

Because it's not easy to tell this story, but people need to hear it because y' all changing fucking lives.

Speaker B:

No, this is facts.

Speaker B:

Because there's so many youth that are went through what y' all went through, and ain't nobody here to talk to them about it.

Speaker B:

Ain't nobody here to hear their story and really give a fuck.

Speaker B:

You get what I'm saying?

Speaker B:

So I just.

Speaker B:

I honor and I praise y'.

Speaker B:

All.

Speaker B:

Cause I know it's hard.

Speaker B:

When you said that knock on the door, that hit a button with you, I had that same knock on the door.

Speaker B:

I just was fortunate for my grandmother to be on the other side.

Speaker B:

But I would have been in the same motherfucking situation, you know what I'm saying?

Speaker B:

So I honor you for coming on.

Speaker B:

Because I know your story and I know it's not the easiest to talk about, but I will say it feel.

Speaker A:

Good to talk about it sometimes.

Speaker B:

That's what I be saying.

Speaker B:

That's why I wanted to do this.

Speaker B:

Because you need to let that shit out.

Speaker B:

And you a man.

Speaker B:

You a real man for crying and letting the world know that that shit hurt.

Speaker B:

It do.

Speaker B:

You know, and just not having parents.

Speaker B:

You don't make me fucking cry.

Speaker B:

But just not having parents is hard.

Speaker B:

That shit fucked up, you know, Even losing my mom, like, you know, God damn, I hate.

Speaker B:

I got this goddamn makeup on.

Speaker B:

I'm trying to hold it back, you know, it's just.

Speaker B:

It's not easy.

Speaker B:

And I don't want you to feel pressure to talk about, you know.

Speaker B:

Cause your shit get deep.

Speaker A:

Oh, yeah.

Speaker A:

You know what I mean?

Speaker A:

It's okay.

Speaker B:

Okay.

Speaker A:

I can talk about it.

Speaker B:

Okay.

Speaker B:

Because, you know, when we was on the news, me and her was on the news.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker A:

Thank you, Mama.

Speaker B:

I stepped up quick.

Speaker B:

I was her voice.

Speaker B:

You know, it's.

Speaker B:

I'll let you tell it, but I just want you to know, like, I want you to feel comfortable, like, you tell what you want to tell.

Speaker B:

That's why I gave y' all that platform.

Speaker B:

I'm not telling y' all story.

Speaker B:

This your story and your time to tell people and to help others.

Speaker B:

Because you wouldn't believe.

Speaker B:

You all know I do the transitional housing.

Speaker B:

I be.

Speaker B:

I get them stories all the time.

Speaker B:

All the time.

Speaker A:

All the time.

Speaker B:

It blows me the fuck back.

Speaker B:

You can't make this shit up.

Speaker B:

This is real life.

Speaker B:

So I want you to tell your story, okay?

Speaker B:

Because you are a success story.

Speaker A:

I am.

Speaker A:

I didn't let it break me at all.

Speaker B:

And I always tell you that Glowing God chooses certain people to have tough lives because like I told you, you're going to be that voice or a person to help other people that went through what you're doing.

Speaker B:

Because some people don't heal from that shit.

Speaker A:

They don't.

Speaker B:

And you are healed.

Speaker B:

More than what you know.

Speaker A:

Yeah, I am.

Speaker B:

I know you think you a little.

Speaker B:

No, but you.

Speaker B:

You.

Speaker B:

I don't know if I could have went through it.

Speaker B:

You get what I'm saying?

Speaker B:

But tell them you know.

Speaker A:

Okay.

Speaker B:

I know it's hard.

Speaker A:

So basically, what happened was my mama, she wasn't there.

Speaker A:

You feel me?

Speaker A:

I already said that she wasn't there.

Speaker A:

She chose the man over us.

Speaker A:

There's things that you got to do to get your kids back when you go to the system.

Speaker A:

You got to take drug testing and stuff.

Speaker A:

If you was involved in that type of activity when you got took, which they did, they had methamphetamines and stuff.

Speaker A:

So, yeah, I do drug testing.

Speaker A:

You gotta do parenting classes.

Speaker A:

There was DV in the house.

Speaker A:

So you gotta do the domestic.

Speaker A:

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker A:

You gotta do them classes and do visits with your kids.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker A:

So my mama didn't do none of that.

Speaker A:

She didn't show up to anything.

Speaker A:

She just disappeared on us and then.

Speaker A:

Yeah, she just disappeared on us.

Speaker A:

And then my.

Speaker A:

My dad, like, he would.

Speaker A:

He would do that stuff.

Speaker A:

Like.

Speaker A:

And the fuck.

Speaker A:

This is what's gonna make it fucked up.

Speaker A:

That's why I'm saying this part.

Speaker A:

Because my dad would do all that.

Speaker A:

My dad would go to all the parenting classes.

Speaker A:

My dad would do everything.

Speaker A:

Like, my dad was my best friend at a point in time, like, for me, he didn't do them things to me.

Speaker A:

Like, for me, he treated me how you're supposed to treat me at first.

Speaker B:

Okay, pudding.

Speaker A:

So basically, long story short, I felt uncomfortable because one day we was at the visits, you know, like I said, my dad was going to visit.

Speaker A:

He was doing everything he was supposed to do.

Speaker A:

He was going to get us back.

Speaker A:

Like, he was this close to getting us back.

Speaker A:

But I feel very uncomfortable because one day we was out to visit.

Speaker A:

I have two little sisters and I got four brothers.

Speaker A:

They all my little brothers.

Speaker A:

And then we got the same mom and dad.

Speaker A:

And I got one Older sister, she in the game and stuff.

Speaker A:

She just lost, like, and the same thing happened to her, so.

Speaker A:

But she didn't get out of it.

Speaker A:

Like, she got sucked in.

Speaker A:

And she a prime example.

Speaker A:

Literally.

Speaker A:

But long story short, you talking about.

Speaker B:

The whole game, right?

Speaker A:

Yeah, like, she.

Speaker A:

She in the game.

Speaker A:

Like, and she.

Speaker A:

And she let it break her.

Speaker A:

Like, she looks bad.

Speaker A:

She looks so bad.

Speaker A:

My sister got.

Speaker A:

She was working on a track and she got hit by a car and she broke her ribs and she lost all her teeth and everything.

Speaker A:

She young.

Speaker A:

Like, she don't know.

Speaker A:

This probably was like three years ago.

Speaker A:

But she like, she fucked up now.

Speaker A:

Not.

Speaker A:

And she just looks so skinny.

Speaker A:

She looks so dead.

Speaker A:

Like, it just looks so sad.

Speaker A:

You can see what it would do to a person when you don't take control of it and don't let it take control of you.

Speaker A:

You know what I'm saying?

Speaker A:

So, basically, long story short, my dad put my little sister on his lap and she was calling him daddy.

Speaker A:

And it made me feel uncomfortable.

Speaker A:

Cause I was thinking my dad gonna do it to her.

Speaker A:

Cause he had like.

Speaker A:

So then that's when I'm like, okay, I'm finna go tell.

Speaker A:

So I told her that he, you know, he was touching on me and stuff.

Speaker A:

Sexually assaulting me, molesting me, raping my biological father, my dad.

Speaker A:

And he black too, so.

Speaker A:

And I ain't even trying to say it like that.

Speaker A:

Cause most of the time when you think of stuff like that, you be like, you feel me?

Speaker A:

That's the another race or something.

Speaker A:

Feel me?

Speaker A:

Like the Mexicans or something like that.

Speaker A:

I ain't even trying to be like that.

Speaker A:

I'm just saying, like, that's what you really.

Speaker A:

That's why I think, you know.

Speaker A:

But considering it was my own dad, he wasn't like a weirdo.

Speaker A:

You feel me?

Speaker A:

There's so there's weirdos in all type of races.

Speaker A:

You know me.

Speaker A:

But he wasn't a weirdo, nigga.

Speaker A:

He like.

Speaker A:

He was like.

Speaker A:

He seemed like a regular dude.

Speaker A:

That's the part that was scary because he was intelligent, he said all the right things.

Speaker A:

He was very manipulative too.

Speaker A:

Like, he knew how to talk to people and he just.

Speaker A:

And he was from Richmond and stuff.

Speaker A:

And like, he just.

Speaker A:

He knew hella people and stuff.

Speaker A:

And he seemed like he wasn't a weirdo.

Speaker A:

Like, you know what I mean?

Speaker A:

But he was a weirdo.

Speaker A:

He touched my older sister and stuff and everything.

Speaker A:

So I felt like it was just gonna keep going down.

Speaker A:

Like he touched my older sister.

Speaker A:

My older sister left.

Speaker A:

He touched me.

Speaker A:

When I leave, he gonna touch my little sister.

Speaker A:

It might not be today and it might not be tomorrow, not be a year from now, but he gonna touch her eventually.

Speaker A:

So I made that sacrifice and I told and they had.

Speaker B:

Good for you.

Speaker A:

Thank you.

Speaker A:

Yeah, I was very scared too, because after that they took everybody from me.

Speaker A:

Like, I mean, they.

Speaker A:

They took everybody from me.

Speaker A:

Everybody was just going after that, my little brothers and sister just spread apart.

Speaker A:

Like, my little brothers was together.

Speaker A:

Some of them was together.

Speaker A:

My other one, my little brother David, he right under me.

Speaker A:

He.

Speaker A:

He like on my dad's side about everything.

Speaker A:

Like, my brother's a weirdo.

Speaker A:

For real.

Speaker A:

Like real weirdo.

Speaker A:

Like, he, he on my dad's side, he'd be like.

Speaker A:

He told me something like if he had a model for a daughter, he would her too.

Speaker A:

And.

Speaker A:

Which is some crazy ass to say.

Speaker C:

I feel you though.

Speaker A:

And like.

Speaker B:

Well, he's traumatized.

Speaker A:

It is.

Speaker A:

It is traumatized.

Speaker A:

But we generation a year and not even a year and a half a year and like two months apart.

Speaker A:

Like we not that far apart.

Speaker A:

You feel me?

Speaker A:

And at once upon time I was up in the mind too.

Speaker A:

He my head up too.

Speaker A:

I didn't know what was right and wrong and I didn't know what a family is.

Speaker A:

And I was.

Speaker A:

I was up too.

Speaker A:

I.

Speaker A:

But I learned how to be better.

Speaker A:

I learned in the world.

Speaker A:

I had to go through stuff and sometimes I up.

Speaker A:

But I learned what is right and what is wrong.

Speaker A:

I learned with somebody.

Speaker A:

Somebody supposed to treat you how.

Speaker A:

Somebody not supposed to treat you.

Speaker A:

I learned how you're supposed to raise a child, how you're not supposed to raise a child.

Speaker B:

You know, I always.

Speaker B:

I ain't never met nobody like her.

Speaker B:

Like, especially going through what she went through.

Speaker B:

Like, this is real life.

Speaker B:

Yeah, you did.

Speaker C:

You saved your family.

Speaker C:

Split a party.

Speaker C:

Y broke up, but you saved them.

Speaker A:

Literally.

Speaker A:

That's what I be saying.

Speaker A:

Literally.

Speaker A:

They don't.

Speaker A:

I don't know if they see it like that.

Speaker A:

And then that's the up part because I don't get to see him or nothing.

Speaker A:

My two little sisters are in Texas.

Speaker A:

They adopted my three little brothers.

Speaker A:

My little brother birthday is tomorrow.

Speaker A:

I don't even know how old you finna turn.

Speaker A:

It's been so long.

Speaker A:

Like, I missed him so much.

Speaker A:

I don't get to see him.

Speaker A:

And they right down the street.

Speaker A:

I live in Vallejo.

Speaker A:

They live in Richmond.

Speaker A:

Like, they right down the street from everything, but everybody don't with me because my mama's like, she'd be very mean to me.

Speaker A:

She says very rude things to me.

Speaker A:

Like she had put a gun out of me when I was younger and was like, you my husband.

Speaker A:

Like, bitch, I got touched on.

Speaker A:

You supposed to protect me.

Speaker A:

You my mama.

Speaker A:

You supposed to protect me.

Speaker A:

You didn't protect me.

Speaker A:

You're not supposed to say no crazy ass like that and pull a gun out of me.

Speaker A:

Like, she didn't.

Speaker A:

Did me hella crazy.

Speaker A:

Just said so many crazy things.

Speaker A:

Like.

Speaker A:

And we just, we.

Speaker A:

We don't with it, but when we get into it, she'll say something crazy and I say something crazy back.

Speaker A:

Cause you're not finished talk to me like that.

Speaker A:

You know, you was never there for you to even say anything to me, especially nothing like that.

Speaker A:

So basically when I say my stuff back, she'll go and tell the whole family.

Speaker A:

And then now everybody don't fuck me.

Speaker A:

They say I'm a disrespectful child, but I'm not disrespectful.

Speaker A:

You shouldn't do that to me.

Speaker A:

You shouldn't treat me like that.

Speaker A:

God says that you shouldn't.

Speaker A:

You shouldn't disrespect your parents and stuff.

Speaker A:

And, you know, honor thy mother.

Speaker A:

Oh, yeah, you're supposed to honor thy mother and father, but your parents are supposed to provoke your children, you know?

Speaker A:

Y' all get what I'm trying to say?

Speaker B:

You feel me?

Speaker B:

No facts.

Speaker A:

Not supposed to do that to them.

Speaker A:

So it goes a two way street.

Speaker A:

I can respect you.

Speaker A:

And the thing is, I'll be crying about it to this day.

Speaker A:

Like, I just made a song about it the other day because it was hurting my feelings and stuff.

Speaker A:

Like, she just left me, you know, like, even when I was in your house.

Speaker A:

And that's why I loved you so much.

Speaker A:

Well, not why, but I loved you more reasons.

Speaker A:

More than just that reason.

Speaker A:

But that was one reason why I love you so much.

Speaker A:

Because my mama, when I get on for her, she talking about I'm not her responsibility no more.

Speaker A:

I'm 17, I'm in the system.

Speaker A:

You haven't been there since I was 12.

Speaker A:

Like, you know what I mean?

Speaker A:

And you, you took the steps to get me.

Speaker A:

You feel me?

Speaker A:

And you saved me.

Speaker A:

Like, for real.

Speaker A:

Like, I wanted to get out, but I didn't know how to get out.

Speaker A:

I didn't know what to do.

Speaker A:

Like, I had nobody to fall on.

Speaker A:

And like, I was, like, scared because, you know, like, I don't have anything for me, and money is all I got.

Speaker A:

Anything.

Speaker A:

Like, for me A tablet phone.

Speaker A:

Like, that's like, that's all I got.

Speaker A:

For real.

Speaker A:

That's why I care about my stuff so much.

Speaker B:

But I know, I noticed all foster kids for real.

Speaker B:

Like, I know.

Speaker B:

Remember when I.

Speaker A:

Psychological thing.

Speaker B:

It's definitely a psychological thing.

Speaker B:

And I remember when you came, you had five cats in the goddamn house.

Speaker B:

She had five cats in the house.

Speaker B:

And I let you keep them all because I knew your attachment and I knew all your shit you had.

Speaker B:

I put you in your own room.

Speaker B:

Like I, you know, I did extra special stuff, but I had five kids in the house that were fosters.

Speaker B:

So I used to play hide and treat her special, you know, doing little stuff for her.

Speaker B:

Cause her, she just was unique.

Speaker B:

And her story was a little bit more in depth than the other youth.

Speaker B:

Not to say that they trauma didn't matter, but her, she just.

Speaker A:

She just.

Speaker B:

You just was.

Speaker B:

You remind me of me, you know, like you was a mini me.

Speaker B:

I remember when I got the call from Contra Costa county and I was like, oh, I don't know if I could do this one.

Speaker B:

She might.

Speaker B:

She might take me out the gang.

Speaker B:

And then you called and we hit it off on.

Speaker B:

We was crying on the phone the first day I met you.

Speaker B:

We were literally crying.

Speaker B:

Her story, my story just was a connection that I felt like, oh my God, I gotta save this kid.

Speaker B:

And I remember she was scared to come to me.

Speaker B:

Yeah, I was the first time they called and we had a cute little interview and she was so scared.

Speaker B:

And I called her, I'm like, well, you gonna come?

Speaker B:

She was like, nah, she didn't answer the phone.

Speaker B:

I didn't made her room special.

Speaker B:

I'm excited for her to come.

Speaker B:

And then she didn't come.

Speaker B:

I didn't hear from you.

Speaker B:

And next thing I know, I was like, she ain't ready.

Speaker B:

She's not ready to get out the game.

Speaker B:

So I can't get her because I ain't gonna be able to save her yet.

Speaker B:

And then she called me that I think the second time.

Speaker B:

And that's when I was like, she ready.

Speaker B:

She ready to get out the game.

Speaker B:

And that's when I took her in open arms.

Speaker B:

And we've been rocking ever since I retired last year, June 15, I think it was close to your birthday.

Speaker A:

Yeah, I think it's like almost two years now.

Speaker B:

Yeah, actually.

Speaker B:

Yep, it is almost two years.

Speaker A:

Yep.

Speaker B:

Cause Ms. J, I was 17.

Speaker A:

I'm 19 though.

Speaker B:

Yep.

Speaker B:

Oh my God.

Speaker B:

Yeah, it was two years, man.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

It's so crazy, but you know, I love you so much.

Speaker A:

I love you too.

Speaker B:

I mean your story is just.

Speaker B:

I promise you, I promise you, you've helped.

Speaker B:

Both of y' all have helped or will help so many people because of y' all telling y' all stories.

Speaker B:

It's so many people that went through what you guys went through and struggle with mental health and we all struggle with this.

Speaker B:

But I feel like you guys are close to normalcy from what you guys been through than a lot of others, if that makes sense, you know, because we house a lot of kids and shout out to be with luxurious foster.

Speaker B:

We house a lot.

Speaker B:

And I see a lot of kids that's, you know, went through what you guys went through and they not functional.

Speaker A:

Got you at all.

Speaker B:

Y' all high level like y'.

Speaker A:

All.

Speaker B:

And like especially you because I personally know you.

Speaker B:

I've been following you.

Speaker B:

You definitely got your own business taking care of helping the community.

Speaker B:

You know, you out here showing your name and.

Speaker B:

And you got a good name by the way.

Speaker B:

And you tt just coming so far.

Speaker B:

You know, I don't think I would be able to survive going through what you went through and to see how you just like I say baby D in the building.

Speaker B:

I. I've never met nobody like you in my life.

Speaker B:

I thought I was different and special.

Speaker B:

No, you extra special.

Speaker B:

And I mean that from the you had me over here crying for.

Speaker B:

Did my makeup up.

Speaker A:

No, you look good.

Speaker B:

It's cool.

Speaker A:

Okay.

Speaker B:

Thank you so much.

Speaker B:

We do boom, boom, boom.

Speaker A:

I don't.

Speaker B:

I hate following trends like everybody.

Speaker B:

I that clocking T shirt, it be.

Speaker A:

Stuck in my head.

Speaker B:

I hate it.

Speaker A:

It be hard when you be get to scrolling and stuff.

Speaker A:

It's like a mind game.

Speaker B:

I got my trying to get you but anyway.

Speaker B:

But no, I know that both y' all is special as and I definitely got something for both of you guys.

Speaker B:

I think you guys deserve.

Speaker B:

If I can give y' all the world, I swear to God I would.

Speaker B:

I will give y' all everything I got just because I think you guys are just so.

Speaker B:

Y' all just.

Speaker B:

You guys are more powerful than what you know to come on here and this going to be all on social media, whatever.

Speaker B:

And to tell y' all story for you to cry on tv, that.

Speaker B:

That needs to be seen.

Speaker A:

Men.

Speaker B:

Men don't.

Speaker B:

No a real man gonna cry and show them tears.

Speaker B:

You know what I'm saying?

Speaker B:

Period.

Speaker B:

A young lady is gonna tell her a story about being molested by her dad.

Speaker B:

Mama ain't ain't having her back.

Speaker B:

And you know me being a Hoe in the streets.

Speaker B:

Me picking you up from a trick house.

Speaker B:

You have no idea.

Speaker B:

I couldn't wait to get your ass.

Speaker B:

Y' all know I said, I gotta say this hoe.

Speaker B:

This is in my mind.

Speaker B:

I got to say facts like, this is in my mind.

Speaker B:

I'm gonna say this hoe.

Speaker B:

Well, I'm gonna save her.

Speaker B:

And I'm just proud of y'.

Speaker A:

All.

Speaker B:

I'm just so freaking proud of y', all, like, so I want to give y' all some gifts and give it to them.

Speaker A:

I'm excited.

Speaker B:

Me, too.

Speaker A:

I haven't had a gift to someone.

Speaker A:

This one mine.

Speaker B:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

And that one touching plot the team.

Speaker B:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

I want y' all to open it because to me, you guys deserve the best.

Speaker B:

And y' all always know I give luxury gifts.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker B:

So I want you to put it on.

Speaker A:

Oh, shit.

Speaker B:

I want you to put it on.

Speaker A:

I want y' all to wait a minute.

Speaker A:

Y' all wait a minute.

Speaker A:

Oh, my God.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

I want y' all to have.

Speaker B:

You know, listen, I already know.

Speaker B:

You know, I love me some Versace.

Speaker C:

That's amazing.

Speaker B:

Yes.

Speaker A:

Shit.

Speaker A:

I ain't never had nothing like this.

Speaker B:

And that's why I do it.

Speaker B:

You know what I mean?

Speaker C:

Pouches and shit.

Speaker C:

They give us some shit for the school.

Speaker C:

All the kids out of good shoes.

Speaker B:

Man.

Speaker C:

This is.

Speaker A:

This make up for all that my mama do.

Speaker C:

All the foster care, like a.

Speaker C:

No caseworker never put nothing like.

Speaker B:

Oh, they don't.

Speaker C:

You're so amazing.

Speaker A:

For real.

Speaker B:

You know, y' all amazing.

Speaker B:

Like, for real.

Speaker A:

Look at so much.

Speaker C:

We about to take some pictures.

Speaker B:

Hey, when we do get up, put them on and we take a picture.

Speaker B:

I should have got mine, too, and put mine on with y', all, but.

Speaker A:

I can't wait to take a shower when I get.

Speaker B:

And that's what I want y' all to do.

Speaker B:

You.

Speaker B:

You lay in luxury, cuz.

Speaker B:

Y' all deserve that, too.

Speaker B:

And I already know both of y' all is gonna have that.

Speaker B:

Y' all gonna both be rich mentally.

Speaker B:

Okay.

Speaker B:

Financially, wealth is coming your way.

Speaker A:

Thank you, Mama.

Speaker B:

I love y' all so much.

Speaker A:

Oh, my God.

Speaker B:

Y' all make me feel so special like that.

Speaker B:

I love that y' all love it.

Speaker A:

Like, I love it.

Speaker B:

Thank you.

Speaker B:

I want y' all to take a picture and send it to me.

Speaker C:

Photo shoot.

Speaker C:

She put us over.

Speaker A:

For real.

Speaker B:

I want to holler.

Speaker A:

No, for real, man.

Speaker A:

Anything I got nice like that, I had to take from somebody.

Speaker A:

And now let me tell you something.

Speaker B:

Lying, literally, she had A tag from somebody.

Speaker B:

I think you got me a Louis Vuitton.

Speaker B:

She got me a Chanel bag.

Speaker B:

Yeah, she went to see.

Speaker B:

Hell, yeah.

Speaker B:

But now you got your own.

Speaker A:

No, for real.

Speaker A:

I didn't have to take from nobody.

Speaker B:

She didn't have to take from nobody.

Speaker B:

Real mob.

Speaker B:

This is real mob.

Speaker A:

Cl the T. That's.

Speaker A:

I love you, Mama.

Speaker B:

I love y', all, too.

Speaker B:

Both of y'.

Speaker A:

All.

Speaker B:

And I appreciate you, too.

Speaker B:

Thank y'.

Speaker A:

All.

Speaker B:

And now, anything y' all want to close out and say, like, you know, to the people.

Speaker B:

What would y' all tell former and current foster youth right now?

Speaker B:

Where should they look?

Speaker B:

Look at the camera right there.

Speaker B:

I want you to tell them.

Speaker C:

Me personally, I think to the current foster youth, you're in control.

Speaker C:

So time don't really exist, especially in our shoes.

Speaker C:

Don't really put time on nothing.

Speaker C:

Don't really think too much.

Speaker C:

Just stay in control.

Speaker C:

And school.

Speaker C:

School is important.

Speaker C:

School was my.

Speaker C:

Sometimes I.

Speaker C:

Sometimes I didn't want to be in the house I was in.

Speaker C:

But that little eight hours at school, that, like, let me, like, be me.

Speaker C:

It let me, like, own myself and really, like, show my character, who I was.

Speaker C:

And then we'd go back to that damn.

Speaker C:

You know, that tunnel for a few hours.

Speaker C:

But I embraced school.

Speaker C:

And throughout embracing school, it got me this far.

Speaker C:

And so just hang your hat on school.

Speaker C:

Get through school.

Speaker C:

It's gonna lead you there.

Speaker C:

You go meet great people, great teachers.

Speaker C:

And I just wanna cry again.

Speaker B:

It's okay.

Speaker C:

You in control.

Speaker C:

Don't never forget that.

Speaker C:

And I wish I could have told the kids there when I was a kid.

Speaker B:

You still can, though.

Speaker B:

You still can.

Speaker B:

You come to my program anytime and speak to all the youth.

Speaker B:

And you got a new friend.

Speaker B:

It's your baby sister.

Speaker B:

Take care of her, you feel me?

Speaker B:

Please.

Speaker B:

No, on my heart.

Speaker B:

She need all the support.

Speaker B:

And that's to all y', all, like, you know what I mean?

Speaker B:

I love y' all both so much.

Speaker B:

And I really do want you to come back, like, to my program and speak to the kids, come to our events.

Speaker B:

You know, like, even with the young ladies, they need a young guy that's a good man.

Speaker C:

Yes, ma'.

Speaker B:

Am.

Speaker B:

You know, I want to teach them etiquette.

Speaker B:

You come and be with our young girls, open the doors for them, pull out their chairs.

Speaker B:

What they deserve.

Speaker B:

These young girls don't know how to be treated by no real man.

Speaker C:

Got you.

Speaker B:

And you are.

Speaker B:

You're beyond a real man.

Speaker A:

Thank you.

Speaker B:

You sit here and you show your tears.

Speaker B:

You.

Speaker B:

Your Genuine self.

Speaker B:

And you telling your story, not doing that from the town period.

Speaker B:

They fake as everything's from the gram.

Speaker B:

You are the most genuine man I didn't met beside y' all Percy and all y' all the most genuine people I've ever like, literally sat and had in the same room with and had a conversation with.

Speaker B:

Thank you.

Speaker B:

So I appreciate your energy and I feel like God put me in both y' all life and y' all in my life for this reason today.

Speaker B:

And I hope we go viral.

Speaker B:

I hope that this give you more ammo for your rapping career.

Speaker B:

TT Rap, too.

Speaker B:

Put her on the.

Speaker C:

No, I got you.

Speaker A:

She.

Speaker B:

No, she's extremely.

Speaker A:

I want to show you when my song got to this.

Speaker B:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

Exchange numbers.

Speaker B:

That's your brother, your sister.

Speaker B:

And this is the main reason why I want to.

Speaker B:

Every month I'm doing a foster youth.

Speaker B:

Every single month, I want to foster youth on here.

Speaker B:

And even if I can get a former.

Speaker B:

So like, when I get them, you could come and you can.

Speaker B:

You.

Speaker B:

You are literally a former foster.

Speaker B:

You.

Speaker B:

And how old are you?

Speaker C:

Well, I'm 30 now, so.

Speaker A:

Really?

Speaker C:

Yes, ma'.

Speaker A:

Am.

Speaker B:

Oh, God.

Speaker B:

Yeah.

Speaker B:

So you.

Speaker B:

You've been out for.

Speaker B:

You've been out a minute, almost a decade.

Speaker B:

And look at.

Speaker B:

Look where you at.

Speaker B:

So I'm just proud of you.

Speaker B:

And what would you tell the people, Ms. T.T.

Speaker B:

well, current Foster, you.

Speaker B:

What would you tell them?

Speaker A:

Yeah, piggybacking off what he said, like, it ain't no time.

Speaker A:

Like, I had to really learn that because I always felt like I was gonna run out of time and stuff.

Speaker A:

Like, I need to do things fast.

Speaker A:

I need to complete this so fast.

Speaker A:

I need to get everything done so fast.

Speaker A:

Because, like, I just wanted to save everybody, for real.

Speaker A:

I wanted to get my together so I could try to go back and get my brothers and sisters for that was really my end goal.

Speaker A:

Even when I was, like, 13 and stuff.

Speaker A:

Even when I was in the game, you know what I mean?

Speaker A:

Even though the way I got in shouldn't have been the way I got in, like, with the group homes and the people and, like, how they did me.

Speaker A:

But once I got in, I was like, this is my plan.

Speaker A:

I'm gonna try to get some money, try to get right.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker A:

I'm gonna try to go get my brothers and sisters when I turn 18, and I'm gonna be good, and we're gonna be good, and.

Speaker A:

But it didn't end up working like that.

Speaker A:

Everything fell apart.

Speaker B:

No, it didn't fall apart.

Speaker B:

Like, that was Your story, like, you know I respect all hoes.

Speaker B:

Yeah, you already know I love all hoes.

Speaker B:

Me personally, because I'd rather you get paid than to sit around and do nothing and bust it open.

Speaker B:

Okay?

Speaker B:

So for me personally, that's why I was so eager to get you.

Speaker B:

Because I was like, oh, I gotta get her your mentality.

Speaker B:

Even when she had a trick pull up to the house, I couldn't even.

Speaker B:

What can I say?

Speaker B:

The nigga helping her, he doing what he's supposed to do.

Speaker B:

Your movement and the way you work.

Speaker B:

I'm telling you, I've never met nobody.

Speaker B:

She's a mini me.

Speaker B:

I got two mini mes.

Speaker B:

The other one over there, like, you are a mini Dr. Stan and I.

Speaker B:

What was the number one thing he said that I always tell you?

Speaker B:

He just said it right now.

Speaker B:

I be on your ass about it all.

Speaker A:

My delivery.

Speaker A:

Nah, makeup school.

Speaker A:

Oh, yeah, school.

Speaker A:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker A:

Oh, yeah.

Speaker A:

That was him.

Speaker A:

That was.

Speaker B:

I stay on you about that.

Speaker B:

You go a prime example.

Speaker B:

He got out, got his bachelor's degree.

Speaker C:

I always in the school ain't about, like, the grades or getting A's and B's, just period.

Speaker C:

Being in an environment where you ain't gotta think.

Speaker C:

They could think for you.

Speaker C:

They can get you through your classes.

Speaker A:

Yeah.

Speaker C:

And you could just build yourself.

Speaker C:

You know what I mean?

Speaker C:

And then even if shit, you get outta school, you failed out.

Speaker C:

It just give you a time to process.

Speaker C:

Like, it ain't just foster care out here.

Speaker C:

It's hella kids who doing this and that and their parents is like.

Speaker C:

You get to learn people.

Speaker C:

So it's kind of like training you.

Speaker C:

So when time do start.

Speaker C:

And I know I said I'm 30, but from 9 to 21, I lost that.

Speaker C:

It wasn't no life.

Speaker A:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker C:

So, like, that's really like 12 years where I can say, like, I'm 18 again, for real.

Speaker C:

You feel me?

Speaker C:

And then, like, I feel like me, mentally, physically, everything.

Speaker C:

He preserved me.

Speaker C:

So you feel me.

Speaker C:

So.

Speaker C:

So my life just started at 18.

Speaker C:

For real.

Speaker C:

So to be 100, I might be 12.

Speaker B:

For real.

Speaker A:

You feel me?

Speaker A:

No, for real.

Speaker C:

So that other shit don't really matter to me.

Speaker C:

It's just the fact that I got through and now it happened, but now I got to start again.

Speaker C:

You feel me?

Speaker C:

And I embraced my new name.

Speaker C:

I embraced my last name, all that shit.

Speaker C:

And yeah, like, I know it was a reason.

Speaker B:

Y' all dope as fact.

Speaker B:

Y' all dope as.

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About the Podcast

Turning Hustle Into Legacy with Dr. Stance
Turning Hustle Into Legacy is a purpose-driven podcast hosted by Dr. Stance, entrepreneur, visionary, and leader in impact-focused business. The show dives into what it truly takes to build success that lasts—financially, personally, and generationally. Each episode features honest, in-depth conversations with entrepreneurs, creatives, and community leaders who are redefining success on their own terms. Guests unpack the real stories behind their journeys—from side hustles to scalable brands, from setbacks to breakthroughs—sharing the mindset, strategies, and discipline required to turn ambition into meaningful impact. With no fluff and no filters, Turning Hustle Into Legacy delivers raw insight, actionable lessons, and powerful perspectives on leadership, resilience, and growth. Whether you’re launching a business, scaling a brand, or stepping into your next level of purpose, this podcast provides the clarity and momentum needed to build something that outlives the grind. This is where hustle becomes legacy.

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Dr. Audra Stance

Education & Professional Background

Dr. Stance holds a Ph.D. in Psychology with a concentration in Trauma-Informed Care, providing a strong clinical and academic foundation for the work led across all programs and initiatives. This advanced training informs Dr. Stance’s approach to mental health advocacy, foster care reform, mentorship, and community-based services, ensuring practices are evidence-informed, ethically grounded, and responsive to the impacts of trauma.

Dr. Stance’s work is deeply informed by lived experience shaped by childhood trauma, providing a personal and empathetic understanding of the challenges faced by foster youth and system-impacted individuals. Having navigated early adversity, instability, and the long-term effects of trauma, Dr. Stance brings both professional expertise and personal insight to the development of programs that prioritize safety, trust, and empowerment. This lived experience strengthens Dr. Stance’s connection to foster youth and individuals in care, allowing for services that are not only clinically sound but also grounded in compassion, relatability, and authenticity. Rather than approaching trauma from theory alone, Dr. Stance integrates real-world understanding into mentorship, program design, and leadership—ensuring individuals feel seen, supported, and capable of growth beyond their circumstances.

Dr. Stance is a purpose-driven leader, author, and mental health advocate dedicated to transforming hustle into sustainable legacy. As the founder and CEO of the non-profit, BWIT Luxurious Fostering, Dr. Stance is redefining trauma-informed care for foster youth and adults through dignity, structure, and empowerment. Dr. Stance is the creator and host of the podcast Turning Hustle Into Legacy, where discipline, faith, mindset, and leadership intersect to build generational impact. An author of From a Hoe to C.E.O., Dr. Stance uses lived experience, mentorship, and mental health advocacy to help individuals move from survival to purpose.